The Lady and the Bully

6 May

Interesting things keep happening during my walks and Sunday was no exception. I was standing at a junction trying to decide on which way to walk (yes yes, I have no set route). A lady driving a car arrived at the junction and was waiting for traffic on the main road to clear up before turning.

The car behind hers is being driven by a young stud accompanied by 3 friends and loud thumping music. They start honking at her as if she is stalling all traffic. This is something that REALLY REALLY ticks me off. When a car is at a junction, its up to the driver of the car to make a decision WHEN he or she makes a move. I hate it when people behind me honk in an effort to make decisions for me.

So these kids keep honking and start gesturing. Then the lady does something that made her a hero in my eyes. She switched off the car, got down, and approached the car behind her. Our heroes who were so aggressive a minute ago suddenly fell silent. Music went off. She approached the driver and asked a simple question “Can you see the road?” to which the guy mumbled something like “No..but.. but…”.. then she said “I can see the road and I WILL DECIDE WHEN I WANT TO GO… If you want to go, climb over me”… by now the guy was suitably humbled and was simply nodding and had this silly grin. As with all bullies he crumbled when confronted.

So next time you honk at a car in front of you… remember, its THEIR decision.. not yours.


16 Responses to “The Lady and the Bully”

  1. praneshachar May 7, 2007 at 2:38 am #

    Very good lesson for those lads who were creating nuisance people have to have patience. fortunately for the lady guys appears to be not from very difficult to handle type or just they want to try if it works fine otherwise be quiet as they did in this case.
    yes lady’s decision to come out and tell them is a very good decision.
    very good write up vijay and nice start for a day.
    have a good day one and all and a resourcefull week ahead

  2. gmohanprakash May 7, 2007 at 6:04 am #

    Think we need more such examples set. Way to go ladies!

  3. Prashanth M May 7, 2007 at 9:12 am #

    Super!! Hats off to that lady!

  4. vinay May 7, 2007 at 11:08 am #

    on a tangential note …vijay, did u see that there was indeed traffic that was clearing :), i know how my wife drives esp here in Bangalore as compared to when in USA :)))

  5. Vijay May 7, 2007 at 11:10 am #

    Vinay: Normally this is true… but in this case it wasnt.. the guy was trying to egg her on..

  6. vinay May 7, 2007 at 11:19 am #

    what i do is to take a reverse ….go as close as possible , just did that yesterday near T blk rayara mutt.

  7. Vijay May 7, 2007 at 12:33 pm #

    That was you ?????? 😉


  8. PS May 7, 2007 at 3:34 pm #

    Comon… I agree that the lady had guts and the guys acted crazy.. But it is foolish to say that the road belongs to the person in front of you.

    What if the person in front gets kicks by looking at the traffic in the junction? And you should plan your route a little while ahead when you are driving.. Not at a busy intersection…

  9. some body May 7, 2007 at 4:14 pm #


    i disagree.

    when a car in front has not moved even after three cars in the neighbouring lane have cleared the intersection, i will honk – not loudly but a short burst to make sure the driver is aware that the signal has changed to green.

    and never – i mean never – will i leave my car to mouth off to honking dudes behind me (especially in the u s of a!). that is unsafe!!! i might – on the other hand – take extra time to get off the blocks (if i get honked at a stop sign).

    if the honking was at a signal and i am at the receving end (see first para above – hey, it happens!), i will slink off quietly ;-).

    – s.b.

  10. silkboard May 8, 2007 at 12:34 pm #

    Nice narration Vijay. but I agree with s.b. on the safety part. I used to do this a lot (get out to soothe or politely question unruly drivers). It can be unpleasant at times. Stopped doing it last year. If I get really annoyed now, I make it even more difficult and slower for the offender (behind, or left side sneakers) 🙂

  11. bachodi May 8, 2007 at 4:10 pm #

    tooo good.
    What day was it ? the day karnataka government passed “Women !! No_night_shift_bill” ? . That matters a lot.

  12. destinationsrik May 9, 2007 at 9:30 am #

    Fantastic story. I have seen people in the front getting irritated and driving crazily later, at such incidents, this lady has a great presence of mind. Hats off to her!!

  13. neel3 May 9, 2007 at 10:57 am #

    the bullies crumbled when confronted…
    excellent life skill to be mastered. kudos for this gyaan

  14. decemberstud May 10, 2007 at 12:00 am #


    Getting down and confronting is certainly unsafe in US of A, not in Bangalore. And, honestly it is quite irritating to see people hinking for no reason.

    Invariably junta will start honking if you do not start your car and drive away when the traffic light is still red and the counter is coming down 5-4-3….oh forget about Amber, there is no such color at all…

    So, Vijay, I agree completely…she was a hero 🙂

  15. Vijay May 10, 2007 at 4:57 am #

    DS: Missed you man… that is exactly what I mean…
    In this case, there was traffic coming in both directions and coming fast… the guy behind is trying to prod her to take a risk.. thats what I am averse to… if it was an empty road then its a different question altogether.


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