Who is right?

2 May

May 1 was a holiday so I decided to pick up Nikhil from his TT class. We then decided to stop by SLV for a quick snack.

As we are eating, we are watching this family of three trying to cross the road. Wife crosses with no problem. Husband is holding the kid’s hand (kid’s probably 5-6 years old), and talking on the mobile phone.. not looking at the road at all. Suddenly we hear a screeching of the brakes, a Sumo almost hits them (but doesnt thankfully). The guy yanks his child back and retreats. Now he does something very very dumb. He slaps the child, who now starts crying.

Nikhil is looking at this and asks me “Why is he slapping the child when it was his fault? If someone needs to be slapped its him.”

He looks at me with a wink and says “Sometimes elders try to shift the blame on children.”

He is so right.


15 Responses to “Who is right?”

  1. praneshachar May 2, 2007 at 8:26 am #

    yes nikihis is absoulutely right
    this mobiles are creating havoc and people don’t understand what to do
    while talking simple things like stand and talk stop th vehicle in safe place
    and talk.we see people doing all types of circus on two/four wheelers and keep
    doing both acts and result may be mishap for someone.
    good post vijay though small conveys lot

  2. gmohanprakash May 2, 2007 at 8:35 am #

    Nikihl is absolutely correct.

    His papa made 2 mistakes, 6 year old kid is talking and walking – mistake #1, giving it to a young kid who could have health issues due to prolonged usage – mistake #2

    mistake #3 – hitting a kid. The most wrong way of teaching the correct thing!!!

  3. Vijay May 2, 2007 at 8:46 am #

    Mohan: It was the father who was talking and walking…

  4. rk May 2, 2007 at 9:00 am #

    doddavarella jaanaralla,
    chikkavarella konarella…

  5. greatunknown May 2, 2007 at 11:23 am #

    Well said rk!
    How irresponsible of that father… I mean, what if something untoward had happened to the child while he was busy chatting on that damn phone of his:(
    Nikhil is wise beyond his years!

  6. Vani May 2, 2007 at 1:08 pm #

    Bellur sums it up very well……Very observant of Nikhil. Unfortunately people are so pre-occupied, this father wanted to shift the guilt on his son… maybe he felt 5 year old son should have warned him…..people have all sorts of ridiculous expectations from their kids…alwe?

  7. Vijay May 2, 2007 at 1:15 pm #

    @RK: These days you have become very poetic with your comments.. but it sums up the entire post..

    @Anand: He is wise when he chooses to be 😉

    @Vani: The question had be thinking.. I think I am guilty of that as well… 😦

  8. neela May 2, 2007 at 2:44 pm #

    Nikhil,you are right!!
    I blame Vagz sometimes when the monumental stupidity would have been my creation.
    That feeling of ‘what would have happened if…’ must have caused immense tension and the slap must have been a way of the fuse going out.Overload aadaaga trip aagattalla hange??
    Sapping was certainly a foolish reaction.Unpardonable.

  9. bachodi May 3, 2007 at 1:54 am #

    Fathers (to sons), Girlfriend/wife and grandmother are always correct. Never question.

  10. Vijay May 3, 2007 at 2:45 am #

    Bach: Words of an “experienced” man? 😉

  11. Mysorean May 3, 2007 at 6:17 am #

    Nikhil, good observation and wise boy! 🙂 (It’s better to be wise when he wants, that’s being wiser in fact!)

    A bow to rk!

    LOL@ Bachodi’s comment! 😀

  12. MP May 3, 2007 at 8:59 am #

    I agree with Neela. I think the slap was a knee-jerk reaction to the shock. At least I hope the dad apologized to the son and consoled him, explaining his action in a way that the 5yo can understand. If the dad were a sensitive person, he would have felt doubly bad after slapping the innocent child.

    In any case slapping a child in any situation is stupid!

  13. Suresh Gundappa May 4, 2007 at 3:41 am #

    I just loved it !

    I am always at the receiving end from my daughter! God I have become old and stupid so fast!

    Thanks fr wonderful and Insightful piece!

  14. Vijay May 4, 2007 at 5:46 am #

    Suresh: Have done as per request..

    P.S: This is Vijay not Bellur 😉

  15. Suresh Gundappa May 4, 2007 at 9:33 am #


    Now you see i am trying to prove I am old and stupid! That’s what my daughter says! Now you have proved me!

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