Brat Kids – Whose fault?

23 Oct

Just reading about the Prasad Bidappa episode. Now I don’t know the guy or his son or the true story so I can’t comment on it.

However I have seen kids of rich and famous parents misbehaving especially at the clubs in Bangalore. Fast cars, bikes and major attitudes, they hang out in the lounges and billiards rooms ill-treating the waiters and flaunting their parents’ wealth in general.

At the same time, I know of kids who grow up with money, are down to earth, not flashy, and look and act like the kid next door.

Is it the neauvo riche who have attitudes because they have suddenly come across wealth? Why do parents put expensive toys in the hand of immature children (cars, bikes, mobiles etc)? Is it their “parental inadequacies” (guilt factor) that force these parents to do this? I have an acquaintance whose son is 15 and runs up bills of Rs. 15,000 on an average every month. The excuse is “networking”. At what cost?

Oh… one more thing, the official “drinking age” in Karnataka is 18 (21 in Delhi and Maharashtra). Are we saying kids are mature enough at 18 to start drinking? I don’t think so.

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17 Responses to “Brat Kids – Whose fault?”

  1. Mysorean October 23, 2006 at 11:53 am #

    Basically, fundamentally and actually bhat bhe are saying is that: Karnataka Government is the greediest of them all! 😉

  2. Vijay October 24, 2006 at 12:05 pm #

    bheri bheri correct

  3. Gangadhar October 24, 2006 at 12:47 pm #

    Vijay,
    you’re right..this drinking phenomenon is so sad..And me was there in b’lore for two years..There’re somany bars just like irani cafes here in hyderabad..And no discrimination of cities is intended here..But consumption of alcohol is increasing day by day irrespective of any city..But we need to be careful for the benifit of the children..

  4. decemberstud October 24, 2006 at 5:41 pm #

    Vijay,

    Not sure if 18 is really the problem. I am not convinced 18 is any different from 21. The REAL problem is the “immature parents”.

    As you have rightly pointed out, we do see several rich kids who are extremely well behaved. And then there are tons of spoilt brats. I have had both kinds of friends (and I would like to keep myself out of the discussion…my parents were not super rich, but nowhere close to being anywhere poor either). Back to my friends, I put the blame squarely on the parents.

    Well, some of the parents were good friends of my parents, and I know for a fatc that they did not want their kids to go the wrong way. But, they were absolutely ill-prepared to handle the situation. They really did not know what the right calls were. Asking your children not watch TV is NOT a solution. And in another case, sending kids to a boarding school is not a solution either. Maybe that kid wouldn’t have become a drug addict if he was sent packing to the boarding school.

    I am not generalizing the issue here. But, I am definitely generalizing the cause…parents, parents and parents. The “root cause” culd vary !!!

    Thanks for a thought provoking post.

  5. Vijay October 25, 2006 at 5:37 am #

    DS:

    Very well written…. no parent wants their kid to go astray… the “general” direction should be set at home… you are correct

  6. mouna October 25, 2006 at 2:17 pm #

    i guess, that it’s the way kids are brought up, as u said, being flashy, or being the person-next-door, all depends on the environment, prevaling at home.

  7. Kishor Cariappa October 26, 2006 at 9:24 am #

    If kids can get a driving licence at 18, I guess they are mature enough to booze.

  8. Vijay October 26, 2006 at 11:13 am #

    Kishor… this is the first time I dont agree with you 🙂 (agree to disagree)

    The problem with drinking is that at 18 you dont know where the limit is.. of course I have known guys who are 40 and dont know the limit…

  9. Kishor Cariappa October 26, 2006 at 11:59 am #

    How do you deny access to liquor to 18 year olds? If you ban them from entering a bar/wine shop, then you are encouraging them to take dubious routes to buy liquor. This is quite a tricky issue. Also, these days, 18 year olds are involved in more nefarious activities than boozing.

    As you mentioned kids of celebrities have arrogance to take on our system….that’s the reason they make news most of the times. The new entrant is this ever growing list is Nikhil Gowda. Way to go!

  10. Vijay October 26, 2006 at 12:07 pm #

    Kishor: Kobbu.. kobbu.. kobbu.. its the comfort of knowing that they’ll get off come what may… I wonder if our CM sits down and asks his son why he didnt go to classes in the first place….

    The above was an incident that took place when the “little CM” was refused a hall ticket to write the exam…

    I think you are refering to the Hotel brawl that took place right?

  11. YouSuck February 12, 2007 at 7:51 pm #

    Thats what the media says. There is no truth to Adam Bidappa beating the cops up. That’s the media story. The truth is, the cops beat him up when he refused to part with money when they wanted him to pay up knowing who he was, and that he could pay. The cops were in the wrong. But hey… how does one prove that?

    If you ever meet him, you’ll know that he’s quite a decent kid.

  12. YouSuck February 12, 2007 at 7:58 pm #

    And I agree with the drinking problem. I don’t necessarily think 18 or 21 is the problem… Its this whole new generation. I see kids who are 16 sitting and getting drunk during college hours at pubs.

    And the 11PM rule is ruining the older ones too… Binge drinking is now the norm and is being very bad to health in general.

    I don’t know if parents can do anything about their children drinking. I, for example, was brought up just fine. How did I become the raving alcoholic that I am now? Because of the friends I had in high school and college. They defined it. My parents could not do anything about it because they didn’t even know, till it was too late.

    Am I proud of it? No. But I love my drink, and I’m definitely an alcoholic. There is nothing you can do if your children decide to do it. Its their friends that define it. So constantly monitor who they hang out with.

  13. Vijay February 13, 2007 at 1:41 am #

    Yousuck: These are interesting points you make…it is always good to hear opinions like yours.
    I agree that it is peer pressure… after all parents can’t be with you and monitor you all the time…. REALLY good points…

  14. some body February 26, 2007 at 4:09 pm #

    it is all a question of how much authority the brat has, and who permits him/her to wield it.

    – s.b.

  15. neel3 March 16, 2007 at 7:42 am #

    The virus is in the air–

    Potentially harmful commodities are advertised sensationally.
    It is ‘cool’ to do things which your parents find disgusting/dangerous.

    Those who are already in the grip of such maladies suck in more people for guilt assuaging.

    Or maybe the feel secure -more the merrier.

    It is like that with people who are going down the hill–they hold on to clumps of grass,uproot them and carry them along the slope.

  16. No Addictions December 7, 2007 at 4:52 pm #

    Spoiling children and failing to teach them how to make an honest living on their own has created an entire culture of out-of-touch kids who do not understand the value of a dollar and who do not know how to roll up their sleeves and work. This is the entitled generation. Think for a moment: someone has to pay for their toys and for their pampered life style. Obviously, if the spoiled kids are not paying their way, the parents are. What parents fail to realize is this: as long as you control the purse strings you have a lot of control over the situation. If you don’t like what your pampered sons and daughters are doing, you have every right to say to them: “I don’t like your irresponsible behavior. Here’s what I expect of you. If you can’t abide by these rules, then get out on your own. It’s my way or the highway.”

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